Sexuality confusion and whatnot

So, today I was eating dinner out with my brother and mom and somehow we got on the topic of relationships. Randomly I said something along the lines of, "Maybe I'll get a girl." My mom and brother looked at me kind of weirdly and my brother asked if I meant adopting a baby girl. My mom said "No..." and said something along the lines of "Well...at least you're open-minded..." I don't know why I was surprised that they were surprised.

I've had a crush on a girl before but I've never really felt sexual feelings for girls. But I have an easier time imagining myself in a relationship with a girl than in a relationship with a guy. Yet I think of myself as straight. Does this make me bi? Or just...not straight, something that doesn't have a definition? Or still straight? And if I am straight does that mean I'm, like, not allowed to date women? I'm rather confused.

Sorry for the cliche-ness of this topic.

While I don't know too much about this, I think it's fairly safe to say that you don't have to fit any strict categories. Don't force yourself into a round hole if you're a square peg, even if you have rounded corners. I guess?

Hey, your family didn't react like you were some sort of abomination. Win, right there.

It could be that your sexual feelings lean one way, while your romantic ones lean another. Sex and love are two different things that we tend to lump together.

I know what you mean by confused.
And just as I become less and less confused, I realize how much it's sucked for guys all this time with all these girls that lead you on at best, or most of the time don't even notice you >.<

I figure the best way to go about it would be to give it a shot at least.

Alternatively, and this is only a small possibility, you might just have no attraction to this one specific person. Or a few specific people.

about sexual confusion right now I'm having a problem with it, Im a man and im in a heterosexual relationship that it's about to brake up, im kind of confused, cos if you are gay you know what you like, but in my case, I like women but I want to be one.
whats the name for that? I just think every day that if i born girl I'll be lesbian, wich would make things easier to undertand for me and my parents...

sorry about my ignorance, but if you could tell me if someone have the same thing or maybe can explain whats with me I should be glad. ^^

Hey Naota, some things I understand are:

Gender (in your head) and Sex (in your pants) and Sexuality (what/who the first two things want to do) don't have some kind of formula like sex=girl therefore gender=girl therefore sexuality=likes boys

I know a few girl-to-guy trans, I think some of them still go out with other guys sometimes.

Have you ever heard of Eddie Izzard? Among other things such as an actor and a hilarious comedian he is a transvestite.

It's too bad that you weren't born the sex that you identify as, and I hope that everything works out, but what a perspective you must have! Make the most of it, be proud of who you are.

I'm really curious about your story now, if you care to share I'd love to listen and chat

naota wrote:sorry about my ignorance, but if you could tell me if someone have the same thing or maybe can explain whats with me I should be glad. ^^

You might want to take a good long look at this article: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transsexualism

Xshu wrote:

naota wrote:sorry about my ignorance, but if you could tell me if someone have the same thing or maybe can explain whats with me I should be glad. ^^

You might want to take a good long look at this article: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transsexualism

You are late, but thanks anyways

Late? As in, too late?

Something happen?

carl-E wrote:Late? As in, too late?

Something happen?

no, sorry if I worry somebody. that late is more like: I have seen that information yet and I know what I want to know yet.
It's strange, its all thanks to YU+ME and this forum. ^^