Ahh, what the hell. I haven't told the story to anyone in a long while. This is probably going to be depressing, depending on how much of it I decide to tell.
So the first time I met Jennifer, we didn't hit it off so well. She'd walked into my friend James' store and I made a smart remark about her being dressed like sporty spice, and she got pissed and told me to fuck off. This was in like, 1999, so the remark was relevant then.
We saw each other a couple more times at my friend's shop, and I found out that not only was she was going to the same tech school that I was, but she was living in the dorm/apartment building across from mine. After a week or so we'd gotten past the initial meeting and were neutral to each other. So one day as I'm heading out, she's standing across the street and calls out to me, asking if I'm going to James' shop again, and I tell her yes I am, and offer her a ride. On the way I stop through Burger King because I'm starving, and offer to buy her something since I'm not a jerk who's gonna watch someone go hungry. It was one of those afternoons when all of the teenagers are out and the fast food joint lines are hellaciously long, and it took us forty-five minutes to get through the line, so while we waited we struck up a conversation.
You know in stories when you read about two people just...clicking? It was like that. By the time we got past the drive-though we were chatting like we'd known each other for years, and the same went for the twenty-minute drive to James' place. After that, for the next few weeks, once every couple of days she'd come knock on my door and ask for a ride to James' or somewhere, and I'd oblige, since I was usually going myself, and while we were there we'd hang out and talk, and got to be really good friends. After a month of this, she knocked on my door one day and asked to use my internet for research on a paper. I let her in, and we hung out and talked while she was working on her paper. Pretty soon her coming over to hang out and watch TV or chat was a regular thing, and we were fast becoming close friends. We went out together, to eat, to see movies, to buy smokes, to hit golf balls out into the woods with a driver I'd bought at a pawn shop to bean burglars in the head with... whatever we felt like doing that day. We shared a lot of very personal stories, about her father's recent death, my problems with my family, her weird relationship with her mother... She hated her roomate, and after a while it became normal for her to come over almost every day to hang out, and most times I'd let her sleep on my bed and I'd take the couch in the common living room. (This wasn't quite so altruistic as it sounds, I love sleeping on couches for some weird reason, and my roommate didn't mind any of it.)
Then one Sunday I'm driving home from work at my weekend job, and it's pouring down rain in buckets. I'm talking the kind of rain and thunderstorm that feels like it's about to push your car off the side of the road, where you can almost feel the pressure of every loud, giant thunderbolt as it strikes down. As I pull into the parking lot, as usual the first thing I do is look and hope to see her car parked there. I light up as I see it, and as I'm nearing the building I can barely see some crazy person through the haze of the rain, standing outside flailing their arms around and yelling. As I get out of my car and decide to investigate just who this insane person is, I see that it's Jennifer, standing on the stoop of her building, screaming up at the sky, at God, "IS THAT ALL YOU GOT, PUSSY?! BRING IT ON! COME ON, MOTHERFUCKER IS THAT THE WORST YOU FUCKING GOT?!"
And standing there, drenched in the rain and cold, the realization suddenly dawns on me. "Holy shit. I am completely and totally in love with this woman."
The storm knocked the power out to half the city that night, and since neither the microwave nor oven worked, we went to a convenience store and bought some provisions to last out the night. I tried to light my zippo so we could see, but it wasn't enough, then her eyes lit up and she ran out of the apartment, returning a few minutes later with some candles she'd lifted from her bitch roommate's room. We lit those around the living room to see by, and spent the night eating Ritz crackers and Easy Cheeze and talking through the night, the whole time with me slowly coming to terms with my suddenly-newfound love for her. After a few hours, I finally found words for it, and told her how I felt. Albeit bluntly.
"Jennifer, I'm in love with you."
She just sat there, stunned. Nothing but silence for what seemed like a goddamned hour but was probably only a minute, then she finally raised her head, looked me in the eyes, and said, "When I was in high school there was a guy I was head over heels for. I tried to get together with him, but I got burned. Really, really bad. I'm talking fucking nuclear here. And I just can't do that again yet, I'm sorry." Then she got up and left.
I didn't see her again for two weeks. She came by and knocked on my door, asking to use my internet again. I let her in, we started hanging out, and talking, and after a couple hours everything was back to normal, like nothing had happened.
Nothing at all.
Fast forward through the next three months of Hell on Earth, as we get back into the old routine of her coming over every day, hanging out and usually staying over, going out together, etc, while I try my damndest to not think about that night, or my feelings for her, and attempt to keep her in my life as a friend if nothing else, and slowly realizing that that's not possible because when she's sitting there in my room and I'm pretending to watching TV, I'm really watching her, and every time we go out I'm pretending it's something else, and every time I see her I want to scream "I LOVE YOU, GOD DAMNIT!" at the top of my lungs, and as time goes on my mind is slowly, methodically, unraveling.
So one day we're at James' talking with his brother John about this place in Mississippi where the three of us used to live for a while, that was actually an almost-cool corner of Mississippi, right on the beach between New Orleans and Biloxi, and how we wished we'd been able to work harder and establish ourselves there instead of having to move back to Texas, and somehow when I wasn't paying attention the three of us, Jennifer, John and I, make this plan to move down there within the next few months, and all share an apartment to save money. While driving back home, she's all excited about it and yammering on, and it all finally falls into place in my head what's going on, and I tell her, "Well, I may not be able to do this after all."
"What? Why the hell not?" She asks.
"Because I just realized that I'd want it to be something that you wouldn't." She honestly looked shocked, and again asked me what the hell I was talking about.
"Because I'm in love with you damnit. I told you this three goddamn months ago."
To which she replied, "...I don't know what to say to that."
This time it was three weeks until I saw her again. She came, knocked on my door and asked if she could hang out.
I said "No.", closed the door, and locked it.
Yes, I am an asshole.
A few days later she came by and I let her in to collect her guitar, and all her other stuff that was in my bedroom. And I never saw her again after that.
...until a year later. I'd flunked out of the tech school and was working at a local automotive store while staying with my parents and saving up money to get an apartment. One day I get an E-mail that looks like a badly crafted spam about some psychic stuff, that says, "Prepare to receive an apology from an old friend soon..." Something looked odd about it, so I looked it over and when I saw the E-mail address it'd come from I recognized it as hers. I replied with one word... "Jennifer?"
The next day I get a long-winded, profusely apologetic E-mail from her about how in the past year, she'd moved to a half-dozen different places and held a dozen different jobs, and no matter what she did, nothing felt right, that something seemed to be missing, and that one day she's just sitting there and it hits her like a ton of bricks, it's me that's missing. That finally, she realized that she was in love with me too, it just took her a year to come to terms with it. That she'd written out this long letter to mail to me telling me how she felt, and then cried when she realized that she didn't know where to send it, and carried it around with her for a month, until she was looking through some old notebooks and found where she'd written down my e-mail address for some reason. She said she wanted to move back to Texas to be near me, and wanted to make plans to come see me in two weeks on Thanksgiving when she'd be down visiting family, and that she really, truly loved me and wanted to spend the rest of her life with me.
I spent the next two weeks on cloud nine, and on Thanksgiving Day I skipped both family gatherings to go meet her. She gave me the letter she'd written, then we went to my parents' house to talk and catch up. We spent half the day together, some times being awkward, and others we were clicking along like old times. I told her about my job, and friends, and the apartment I was looking at, and she told me about all the places she'd been in the past year. At the end of the day, she had to leave to catch her ride back home, so we said our goodbyes, then I told her I loved her, she told me she loved me, and I kissed her goodbye. I have never in my life reproduced anything as euphorically joyous as that moment. The she got in her car and drove away.
And I never saw her again.
Three weeks later I get another E-mail. Saying that her plans had fallen through, and she wouldn't be able to move back to Texas after all, and she had a lot of things to figure out, and that of course it wasn't me, it was her.
The night I got that e-mail I was so depressed that I parked my car on the tracks with the nine o'clock bearing down on me. No bullshit. And to this day I still don't know what made me put the car into gear at the last minute. It wasn't fear, and it wasn't any newfound hope, or zeal for life. I felt numb. I honestly couldn't give you and answer if you asked me.
For the next few years I dated women, but never for long. It never worked out. They weren't her. None of them measured up. Jennifer was perfect. She was everything I'd ever wanted in a woman, and some of those things I didn't even know I wanted until I met her. Then she left. And no one's been good enough since.
I still have her letter, and about once every year or so I take it out and read it again. Read her telling me how much she missed me, and loves me, and I start to wonder where she is, and what she's doing. Sometimes when I come home from work I imagine seeing her car parked in my driveway, and she's standing there, smiling at me, as if to say she's back, and everything is great again.
But that's not going to happen, I know this. I do have a grip on reality. Not that it helps.